Trammel Anderson Chef Tiffany Henderson Leadership July 14, 2011 Topic: Personal Leadership – Knowing yourself so you may begin exploring your own true potential. There are several questions that must be discussed first to gain access the knowledge of oneself. The first question is “what is a personal strength? ”A personal strength is having self-confidence. It is the ability to communicate with yourself in a positive manner. It is having a vision of who you want to be, how you want to live, how you want to fulfill your vision and then by having the faith to do so, you can achieve success.
Personal strength is also about having independence and not depending on anyone else to tell you how to think or feel. It is the ability to make moral decisions that are best for you and then act on them. Lastly, it is about having the ability to laugh at yourself because laughter transforms pain. “Making the best of ourselves is not an easy task. It is a pleasurable pursuit, it is the reason we were born, but it requires patience, persistence, and perseverance. For many of us it also requires prayer. That is because we find it far easier to learn to live by our own lights when we access a Higher Source of Power to illuminate our path. (Sarah Ban Breathnach) A key aspect of confident people is that they have high self-esteem – they hold themselves in positive self-regard. This means that they know how to love themselves and that they acknowledge what they’re good at. These realizations boost their resilience and ability to take on greater challenges. Your ability to take appropriate, effective action is affected by various things in your life that may seem to have little direct relation to the task at hand. Your values are a good example of this. Your self-confidence is likely to waver if you don’t value what you excel at doing.
Research shows that if you value what you’re good at, you’re likely to be highly confident in that area. If you value what you’re not so good at, then you will not feel so confident, even though your friends may reassure you that this is not much of a problem at all. Building confidence begins with going with your strengths. If you’re great at music, don’t beat yourself up because you’re not going to play international rugby. Pat yourself on the back, practice accepting compliments for everything you do well, and enjoy the positive reinforcement from others.
Respect and honor yourself, and you’ll find that you get respect and honor from those around you. For confidence to thrive and grow, you must concentrate your attention on what you’re good at, rather than trying to turn yourself into something that you’re not. The next question is to ask oneself is “why are personal strengths important to recognize? ” If you do not recognize your strengths you will not know your weaknesses. The key to unlock you’re ability to understand and recognize your personal strength’s lies in the understanding of “self”. Let us take Sigmund Freud and his ID, EGO and Superego theory into account.
The Id, ego and super-ego are the three parts of the psychic scheme defined in Sigmund Freud’s structural model of the psyche; they are the three theoretical constructs [a construct is a concept, model, or schematic idea] in terms of whose activity and interaction mental life is described. The meaning or explanation of these three psychic schemes starts with the id. The id and its functions lie in the irrational and emotional part of the mind. To give a further explanation of what this means take a baby from birth for instance. At birth a baby’s mind is all Id they possess the want, want, want, mentality.
The Id is the primitive mind. It contains all the basic needs and feelings. It is the source for libido. And it has only one rule the pleasure principle: I want it and I want it all now. If I were to use a transference definition I would simple state that the Id best equates to mean child or selfishness. If you are more of an Id person or if your Id is too strong you will normally be bound to self-gratification and uncaring to others. The second part of this scheme starts with the ego. The ego and its functions lie in the rational part of the mind.
The Ego develops out of the growing awareness that you cannot always get what you want. The Ego relates to the real world and it operates by means of the reality principle. The reality principle states that, “the ego controls the pleasure-seeking activity of the id in order to meet the demands of the external world. ” The Ego realizes the need for compromise and negotiates between the Id and the Superego. The Ego’s job is to get the Id’s pleasures but to be reasonable and bear the long-term consequences in mind. The Ego denies instant gratification or the child like urges that we as humans possess.
It also aids in the delaying of gratification. A term was coined to refer to how well the ego copes with these conflicting forces. This term is ego-strength. To complete or maintain its work of planning, thinking and controlling the Id, the Ego uses some of the Id’s energy. If I were to use a Transference definition I would simple state that the Id best equates to mean adult. If you are more of an Ego centered person or if your Ego is too strong you will normally be bound to be extremely rational and efficient, but cold, boring and distant. The third part of the psychic scheme is the superego.
The superego and its functions lie in the part of the mind that’s considered to be the moral part. The Superego is the last part of the mind to develop. The Superego becomes a semi tangible embodiment of the parental and societal values that were instilled in you. It stores and enforces rules. It constantly strives for perfection, even though this perfection ideal may be quite far from reality or possibility. Its power to enforce these rules comes from its ability to create anxiety. This feel anxiety is rooted in the subsystems of the superego. The two subsystems of the superego are the Ego Ideal and the Conscience.
The Ego Ideal provides rules for good behavior, and standards of excellence towards which the Ego must strive. The Ego ideal is basically what the child’s parents approve of or value. The Conscience on the other hand the rules about what constitutes bad behavior. The Conscience is basically all those things that the child feels that their mother or father will show disapproval of or punish them for doing. If you are more of a Superego centered person or if your Superego is too strong you will normally be bound to feel guilty all the time or you may even have an insufferably saintly personality (self-righteous).
The recognition of the id, ego and superego will allow you to gage your inner strengths and systems of control. This will allow you to recognize your strengths more accurately. I explained all of this to say that you must know yourself first on a deeper level to accurately recognize your strength’s. I believe that many people have chameleon strengths. What is chameleon-strength? Chameleon-strength is a strength that disguises itself as one thing but the true strength lies underneath. Parents or mentors are often the culprit when this happens. They push off their strength on the person or child through transference or synergy.
This personal strength which they have effectively delivered to you may not fit your personality type and if it does not it will become a weakness. The next question is how can a person’s strengths be developed? A person’s strengths can be developed by understanding them as I previously mentioned. To understand how to develop them you must first know what development means. The definition of the word develop is to “expand by a process of growth. ”(Merriam-Webster) So take any strength for instance to expand it by a process of growing it you have to look at the potential of what it can become.
So in essence you must treat your strength as a weakness to grow in back into strength. For example in sports the majority of people are either right handed or left handed. This is a big deal especially in basketball because the right handed or left handed player are limited to that one hand if they do not develop the weaker hand to become their new strength. Michael Jordan is a prime example of this. When Jordan first arrived in the National Basketball Association he was average shooter and defensive player but these were his strengths.
To develop these strengths he had to make his strength his weakness and his weakness his strength. He was a right handed player so he decided to shoot and defend with his left hand quite exclusively. He practiced and exercised this to the point that his dominant right hand was now his weakness. He shot and defended better with his left hand. This would not do. So he began to develop his right hand in the same fashion that he did his left hand. His right hand soon became dominant again. He continued this process until both hands were of equal strength. He had successfully developed his strength.
A personal strength is not very different from sports if you speak well and that is your strength you should bolster your lexicon by becoming a word smith. Respect your craft and it will develop. The next question is what are your personal strengths? My personal strengths are having a strong sense of rationality and stability, Unselfishness, Individualism, responsibility, altruism, discipline and a high level of understanding. My ability to rationalize and maintain stability gives me the ability to appreciate the benefit for balance and harmony without losing the sight of the practical side of a situation.
My ability to be unselfish gives me the opportunity to help someone meet their needs both internal and external before I focus on my own. The extreme individualistic nature that I possess gives me the strength to have high independence and to project self-confidence. My next strength was honed by the military. This strength is responsibility it gives me the ability to accept the credit or take the blame, with ‘the buck stops here attitude. I also posses the strength to be altruistic I am very concerned for others without giving away everything that I have. I will not give you what I own but I will try if at possible to get you your own.
The military also honed this next strength of discipline. With this as a personal strength I follow standard operating protocols and traditional ways to the letter. The final strength is the ability to understand aspects of a situation or subject at an extremely high level. All of these personal strengths combined allow me to stay at a balanced and harmonies state within myself. The next question or statement would be to discuss limitations. What are limitations? Limitations are defined as a shortcoming or defect. My limitations are anger, over confidence, fault finding and mistrust for people.
My other limitation is that of the mind. The potential that I have within me is limitless but the removal of these limitations must first occur. The next question is why are they important to recognize? They are important to recognize because you will know where your boundaries lie. Once you know where your boundaries are you can break through them or maneuver around them. The next question would be how will you get around them? To get around my limitations I will have to overcome them mentally. To overcome anger I must first dismiss fault finding and mistrust of people.
To delete the fault finding limitation I will have to become non judgmental of people. I have to accept people for who they are. When the realization that a person will make mistakes, it is easier to trust them to be just that a “person”. With the two of these limitations conquered in turn anger will be conquered because the resentment factor will no longer exist within me. The over-confidence limitation can be undone by knowing when to say enough is enough. The all encompassing over comer for all of my limitations are simply to love. Love will conquer a multitude of sins and shortcomings.
When it comes to thinking of my strengths and limitations there are several ways to develop myself to become a better leader? The first step to do this is to know myself well enough to deploy these strengths and limitations to increase each other. The first start to doing this is to listen to myself about my shortcomings. Once these things are identified my strengths can be sent in as if they were antibodies attacking a virus or bacteria. If I generate enough love coupled with humility this will serve as a capsule or a command center to regulate all of my strengths to direct them towards my atural ability to lead. Compassion and fairness with meekness will make me a better leader because I will be able to meet the people at their level. Once they see me on the level and they know that I am not here to hurt them or mistreat them they will trust me enough to listen to what I have to say. The goal to becoming a better leader is to get the people to listen. Once I have their attention our task or objective will be easily achieved. I am a proven and accomplished leader I always complete my mission. The next question is what role does self confidence play in personal leadership?
What is self-confidence? Self-confidence is defined as “confidence in oneself and in one’s powers and abilities. ” Self-confidence plays an important role in leadership. In our society the majority of the population will not follow a leader that is not self-confident. If a person does not believe in his or herself they will find that no one will either. Self-confidence is a trust issue. It is a mistrust of oneself. People that are not self-confident are typically this way because something happen in their life which caused them to be embarrassed or feel inferior.
To become self-confident they must first overcome this to reassure and repair the mental picture of themselves. Once they repair this mental picture they then can broadcast this mental picture to the people that they are trying to lead. Once the people see this picture they can also cast a positive light on it and follow it as if it were a light house and they were a boat trapped in fog. So to answer the question self-confidence has everything to do with personal leadership. A more in depth explanation of how to overcome self-confidence issues would be to pin point the events that caused the issues and confront them.
You can not fix a problem that you will not address. Once you get the problem or traumatic event out in the open talk about it. You should attack it from all angles to see why it’s affecting the person or yourself in this way. Once the cause has found build a confidence foundation. A confidence foundation will be those things that you do right and with enough practice certain parts of the event or issue can be transformed into a confidence brick to add to your foundation. Eventually you will overcome this issue or event and become more self confident. There are three aspects and or dimensions of self- confidence.
The three are overly self-confident, self-confidence (normal) and a lack of self-confidence. The best way to approach these three would be established a definition for each. The definition for overly self-confidence is quite simple. This definition refers to people who have an overly high opinion of themselves. The definition for self-confidence relates to self-assuredness in one’s personal judgment, ability, and power. The definition for a lack of self confidence would be the reverse of self confidence it states that a person has a lack of self-assuredness in one’s personal judgment, ability, and power.
The best and simplest explanation for this would be to describe a doubter. Personal Mission Statement I will live each day as if it were my last, building relationships that last a lifetime, focusing first on my marriage, second on my family and third on my friendships. I live to create, build, nourish and grow. I will live life within the constraints that are acceptable to me. I will never live life under the control of values that are not acceptable to anyone but myself. I will never fail in my mission to succeed. I will never quit in my desire to achieve.
Opinion Page In my opinion this in depth at my personal strengths and weaknesses has helped me to redefine what I have to work towards to fulfill my duty to mankind. The personal mission statement that I have drafted represents my inner most drive towards self actualization. My biggest challenge will be to work towards a life filled with pure love, humility and meekness. I know that I possess many talents, but these talents have to be used for the greater good not for selfish gain. God gives me my great talents and I know I have to serve his people with these talents.
If I cannot make a difference in people’s lives I am nothing. So what this personal strength paper has taught me is that every person has certain strengths and weaknesses that are directly proportional to what they are put on this world to do. The catch to this is that people are often to selfish and caught up with the daily rigor of life to apply their talents for the greater good. Works Cited Merriam-Webster Online. Merriam-Webster, Incorporated. 27 Nov. 1998 . Inspirational Quotes. 28 January 2009. 20 July 2011. “Id Ego and Super-ego. ” Wikipedia. 09 July 2011. 20 July 2011 .